The Moses Kigongo Vs Olive Zaitun ”Kigongo” looks like a routine divorce hearing but it’s not because the good Hajji claims that he never married Olive in the first place. So, what is the tittle for the woman you have cohabited with for 30 years? Is it ‘Babe’, ‘Housemate’, ‘Bedmate’, ‘Bwenzi-mate’?
Nothing in this universe destroys personal wealth as relentlessly and surely as divorce. Actually, apart from bad leaders,divorce is arguably the greatest destroyer of wealth ever devised. But this particular ”Divorce” sheds light on Hajji Moses Kigongo’s wealth because Olive is demanding for billions of shillings. How can she ask for billions just because the man is having ‘takeaway’ food somewhere, Jesus!
The truth is i always feel bad when i see people divorcing especially if they have been together for a long time. More often than not divorce is for selfish reasons and there is always the the third ‘innocent’ party involved.Because divorce is a vow broken; a vow broken is equivalent to a lie.Career driven women are highly likely to divorce you, by the way. But what bothers me in this particular divorce: It involves people we call ‘elders’ in our society and they are setting a bad example for the young generation. So, is there any way other ‘elders’ can chip in and get these guys out of the media. I was told that President Museveni is very good at reconciling couples in this situation, has Hajji Kigongo got his number somewhere or not?
Let us remember that marriages used to be organised by elders traditionally before religion came in.Marriage,baptism and penance were declared one of the church’s seven sacraments in 1215. In Islam, marriage became another issue 600 years after Christianity.So, when did the traditional leaders or elders felt compelled to stop interfering in marriage matters, i wonder.
Relationships take a lot of time and attention and real hard work.Sorry I should’ve said that I’ve already been diagnosed with the word called ‘understanding’. I always feel that couples should try as much as possible to understand each other in case any extraordinary situation arises in a relationship. If your man or wife has less libido, its just a matter of understanding why there are in that situation, and then find a way of helping each other. If marrying a second wife or just agreeing to monthly ‘takeaways'(haram in Islam) would be an agreeable solution to both, then why not. In Islam, we are encouraged to marry a second wife instead of ‘Rwakutanalizing’ over four women.
Alternatively, there are lots of things women in their 40s plus could do to satisfy their partners in bed,and this include: using good personal lubricants, keeping themselves attractive and fit, communicating with your partner (always a good idea!), and various drug or hormone treatments.
Yes, Loss of libido is fairly common among women during the transition into menopause, but I’m not sure if this is the case with Ms.Olive Kigongo, because the term seems to cover a lot of different situations, from those who experience pain because of vaginal dryness, to “relationship issues” that may arise at midlife and affect desire and/or function. I know of a woman(mid 50s now) here in the UK whose sexual drive went up in the sky as soon she landed in this country, and she is very proud to engage people in a conversation about it. She told us that she only declined one guy from Zimbabawe who had ’embukuli’ that was probably bigger than Hon.Bukenya’s tummy!
All I know is that both men and women are capable of losing interest in sex at some point, due to other factors, regardless of the age. That’s why its very easy for a man or woman to be shagging while imagining another person. The psychic behind this may be because the person he is routinely shagging: does not put in much effort as they should in the process;or there’s less attraction between them; or the ‘Kintu’/ ‘ekiitone’ ( as some of you call it) cells are no longer networking/ facebooking, e.t.c
How you choose to deal with this is, of course, a highly personal matter, but I feel couples should try hard to rediscover themselves without necessarily divorcing each other. There is less good out of divorce, and If I had powers, I would probably make it mandatory for couples to stay together for at least 2-5 years before they divorce.All that needs to be done is to encourage folks to think before they wed, and before they divorce.The couple should go through a waiting period before actually getting married, and by requiring one to show cause why the marriage should be dissolve.